What Is The Female Orgasm?

An orgasm is the most amazing feeling you can feel as a woman. Some can achieve it through penetration, but there are higher chances of achieving it when penetration is coupled by clitoral stimulation. For many women, orgasm is more like the lottery; tried by many and experienced by a few. The female orgasm is so rare that most women have given up trying to achieve it. So the question begs, what is a female orgasm?

Female Orgasm

A female orgasm is, in biological terms, when nerves and muscle tension build up during sex in the pelvis, thighs, buttocks and release all at once in spasms of pleasure. One of the more common ways to achieve it is either clitoral or vaginal.  Most women confess to getting a combination of both clitoral and vaginal orgasm. A female orgasm can be more intense with clitoral stimulation. It, however sadly, does not happen with every encounter. The times when the arousal is there but you don’t get to climax may be due to lack of enough continual clitoral stimulation which is why, in order to reach climax, a position of more control is best because it allows you to play with yourself while your partner thrusts or also rub up on him with a forward, backward thrusting motion.

What happens to the body during an orgasm?

Orgasm involves more than one area and usually involves the whole body to experience it. Your body gradually builds arousal, in readiness of an orgasm. When you become aroused, blood rushes down to your genitals, i.e. the pelvis, thighs, buttocks etc. Tension builds up in your body the more aroused you become. The clitoris then enlarges, and your vagina produces beads of lubrication that eventually flow in preparation for penetration. As you become more aroused, your vagina also contracts to grip the penis while your cervix and uterus move up to create more space for your partner. When orgasm finally happens, these tensed muscles will release resulting in spasms of pleasurable waves. This can be from a few seconds to a full minute. The strength of the contraction largely depends on the strength of your genital muscles. A healthy pelvic floor results in stronger and more prolonged orgasms.

To better your chances of achieving the big O the best way to strengthen your pelvic floor is by doing kegel exercises. These are done by lifting and holding your pelvic floor muscles for a few seconds at a time. Also, try organizing a romantic dinner in a relaxed environment, have a relaxing shower, get a sexy massage with your spouse and, if you are more open to trying new things, introduce sex toys to improve your mood and heighten arousal in preparation for intercourse. To improve your mood you can also do The Sensuality Test where you learn to be in the moment, feel sensations and get out of your head, which is a big part of this! Another big reason why most women do not climax is they worry about how they look. Being comfortable in your skin is not only good as a confidence booster but is also good for your sex life. Learn to be more comfortable in the nude in front of your partner; men find this very attractive. With many women confessing to not orgasm during intercourse, it is worth your while injecting new, exciting activities in your sexy time. Orgasming is not only a physical feeling, but the brain is also involved in achieving it.

What happens to the brain during an orgasm?

Within the first moments of arousal, your brain’s limbic system comes alive resulting in a series of physiological activities that increase the flow of blood to your genitals. It also heightens your ability to perceive any emotional and sensory stimulation. The brain then releases pleasure hormones during orgasm, ie dopamine (the feel-good hormone), oxytocin (the love hormone) and serotonin (mood-boosting hormone). All these hormones act together during orgasm resulting in the euphoric feeling you experience during and after intercourse. The female and male brain act differently in that the female brain produces more oxytocin while the male brain produces more dopamine during sex. When you reach climax, several areas of your brain shut down completely including the amygdala( fear and anxiety), hippocampus(memory), anterior cingulate and insular cortex (responsible for the facial expressions during sex and also inhibit pain sensations).

Everyone experiences sex and orgasm differently. Understanding what goes on in your body and mind will help you appreciate sex more as well as know what tunes you towards achieving orgasm.  So have full exploring and reaching it.